- Control is both a noun (the power to influence or direct people's behaviour or the course of events), and a verb (determine the behaviour or supervise the running of).....
- How "nice" people can control you..... sometimes without even consciously knowing that is what they are doing.
- "I'm only raising this because I'm concerned about you".... which for teenagers it MAY be OK, but for adults it is not appropriate and is a form of shaming and trying to control someone else in doing what YOU think they should do....
- Then there is COERCIVE Control..... which causes trauma for individuals..... and our body holds the impact of a trauma by holding the energy of the trauma.....
- Control is not WHO decides, but who decides who decides!
- Control the controllable in our lives - fear is all around us, but much of it is outside our control. By plugging into the "uncontrollable", it puts us in a place of helplessness, and even hopelessness, which leads to more cortisol being drip fed into our bodies.... not good!
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDNXKWvfCtY Stop letting other people control your emotions
- Accessing the Healing Power of the Vagus Nerve: self help exercises for anxiety, depression, trauma and autism (Stanley Rosenberg)
- Invisible Chains: overcoming coercive control in your intimate relationship (Lisa Aronsen Fontes PhD.)
- See What you Made Me Do (Jess Hill)
- In An Unspoken Voice (Peter A Levine)
- Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving (Pete Walker)
- When The Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress (Dr Gabor Mate)
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