“Husband Hunting”I really feel as if we shouldn’t be a generation of women who are on the search for a man or husband. Chimamanda Adichie recently said, “So many women are 23 and fixated on marriage.” (Don’t quote me word for word if you are reading this Chimamanda) but the point she made really resonated with me.

We are no longer women who aren’t allowed to work. We are women who can work, get their own passports, buy their own house and define their own path. My business is called Refined Currency because it represents us being a new age of women and money. Yet so many of us still feel internal and societal pressure to get married. Why? We’ve seen many times over that rushing into it or forcing yourself to be ready when you’re not is not the answer.

In the past, I have very clearly said to men (a potential partner), “Listen, I don’t sit and think about my wedding all day.” That means that my goals are bigger than a union where I wear white and feed the 5000 (if you’re Nigerian, you know small weddings don’t exist). I want someone I can build with, grow with and create little legends with. However, I cannot do that if I don’t pour my potential into myself first. The same goes for you. I’m not saying we should be alone or lonely. I’m saying we shouldn’t lose our most valuable years finding a match because society tells us it’s time. Define love, in the same way, you would define success, on your own terms.