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Welcome to the Balanced Blueprints podcast , where
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we discuss the optimal techniques for finances
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and health and then break it down to create an individualized
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and balanced plan . I'm your host , justin Gaines
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, here with my co-host , john Prober . In
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this week's episode , John and I discuss what
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I refer to as the 10-year gap , as
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well as other lies that
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we are told as youth or
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just as we go down our financial
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journey . We hope you enjoy the episode . Thank
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you for listening . A
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little bit more of a somber intro than we're used to , but that
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is what it is . It
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seems like a lot of times we get talking
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about what
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sounds best on paper but
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isn't necessarily achievable
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. We're
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always talking about optimal and our closest way to get there . One of the things
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that I constantly talk about with clients is
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that a lot of times the
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advice that we get in our youth
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or as we start down financial journeys
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, a lot of times those targets are 10
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years ahead
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of when they should be . So I refer to it as
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a 10-year gap because you have
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people who want to be
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a millionaire by the time they're 30
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, which is highly unattainable
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. People will do it . It is
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possible . It's just the vast majority of
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individuals will not , but
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with some planning , some sacrifice
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and dedication to an investment
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journey , doing it by the time you're
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40 is totally doable
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. The
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other one that falls in this gap is high
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school kids being told that they need to know what they do when
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they turn 17 or 18 . But
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then most people don't actually figure out the
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career they want to be in or what journey they want to
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go on until they're 28 , 29 , 30
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, which is part of the reason why that
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million-dollar target gap becomes an issue
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as well . And so I
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like to tell a lot of my clients that whatever financial
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plan we're working on , add
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10 years to it and that's a realistic
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target that's not going to cause you a ton of stress
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and
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, at the end of the day , a lot of these financial targets
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. They really shouldn't be causing you a ton of stress
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unless you have a lot of bad debts
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or you're living paycheck to paycheck
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because of expenses , or maybe your income's
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not high enough . Those situations are going
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to be inherently stressful . So
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that's not necessarily what I'm talking about . I'm talking about more of these
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situations where we place a target
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on something and then we're dissatisfied
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because of the stress that we're putting
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on that target . Well , if we just added a 10-year
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window to it , if you were a millionaire
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by 30 versus a millionaire by 40 , your
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life's not going to be significantly impacted
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by that , because you're still going to work
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. If you hit a million at 30 or 40 , you're
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still going to continue to work , because what else would you do
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? A million dollars isn't enough to retire on
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, especially
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not at that age . So you're still going to continue to work , because what else would you do ? A million
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dollars isn't enough to retire on , especially not at that age . So you're going to have to
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continue to work . And hitting those investment targets at that age isn't isn't doing much
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other than causing you a ton of stress in
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order for you to aggressively hit that target definitely
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.
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Yeah , you see that with fitness stuff too . I mean , you
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just put so much stress and pressure
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on what you want to achieve and
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it's a very long life . You forget
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that this
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off camera . But this just popped into my mind too , of like , I'm sure if at 17
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years old , if your only goal was to be a millionaire and you did not care at
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all what job you worked , I
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I'm sure a ton of people would be able to achieve
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that . But the problem of
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well , I hate this job comes in and
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you keep switching jobs or looking for other ones , because
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otherwise people like we've talked about , if
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that was your only goal , you didn't care what work you did
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, go right into the trades and you'd be pretty
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, pretty well off , probably .
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But that actually right now , yeah , going to the
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trades and you'd be golden making 30 40
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dollars an hour right , but
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we run into that problem where that's .
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That's a tough motivator in my
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mind like I think it may get people started
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or it drives them
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for a while , but long term I
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think that's that money
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motivator itself usually Like
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, is it ?
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bragging rights . Is it the ability to say you're a millionaire , like
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what is driving you to want
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to have that target and , a lot of times , what's actually
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driving you did that would be a lot
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less stressful , but
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a lot of times the wanting to have a million dollars comes from , you know . Maybe they
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lived a childhood
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that didn't have a ton of vacations
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or a ton of things that they could have , and so
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now they want to be able to have that . So they want to have a million
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dollars , because they feel that that is their point
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at which they can do whatever they want and
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they're not going to have to stress about it . Or
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there's that other fallacy where they want to hit
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that point and not have to think about money
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anymore which we talked about in a previous episode
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where that's just not going to happen . The way
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to get to having a million dollars is by
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thinking about money consistently , not
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in a unhealthy
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, obsessive kind of way , but in a healthy
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, slightly obsessive kind of way , where you're tracking
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it , staying on top of it , making sure that you
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have a balance there . And so
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if we can
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get down to the root of why do we want to be at
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this target , that's going to actually highlight
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the insecurities that we have and
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determine why we're trying to get there . And
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then that's going to allow us to back up and determine
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how to set our financial journey
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in a way that'll make us successful
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and achieve our actual goals
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. Because the number one way you can
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debunk somebody saying that they want the money just
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to have the money is okay . If
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I could write you a check for a million dollars right now
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, but you couldn't spend it it could only go into
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an investment account or a bank account would
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you be satisfied ? If you achieve that
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goal today by me writing you
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a million-dollar check , would you be satisfied ? Most
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people are like no , I'm like okay , why ? Well , because I can't
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spend it , I can't do anything with it . If you had the million dollars in
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the bank , what would you do with it ? And
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that's another way of asking why do
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do you want the million dollars ? So then you get a
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mindset where they're primed okay , I have a million
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dollars in the bank , what am I gonna go do ? I
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would say , half of the time , people give you answers
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that they can achieve
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on a smaller level without having
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a million dollars . It might be a vacation , it
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might be going on a yacht , it might be a helicopter
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ride , all these sorts of things where
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in their mind they're thinking about I want to own the yacht
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, I want to own the helicopter , be able to do it whenever
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I want , instead of just paying to
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go on a helicopter ride or paying to
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go on a
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yacht trip in the Caribbean or the Mediterranean
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Sea , wherever the case may be . But you can
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rent those experiences without having
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to own the depreciating
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asset that comes along with that . So
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there's other ways to achieve those outlines and
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I would say , the other 50% of the time it
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comes from wanting the security
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, wanting to be able to not have to stress
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about money and not realizing
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that not having to
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stress about money comes from having
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that healthy , slightly
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obsessive view on tracking your
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numbers , being on top of your budget and
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making sure that you
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have a window for emergencies and , on
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a day-to-day basis , you are
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living below your means and
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not overspending .
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It's funny too , because my mind
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goes to I don't know this for certain , but the
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concept of oh , I want to do that whenever
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I want , especially
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a lot of the things that people want to do whenever
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they want . I would imagine once you do it once or twice , they probably lose
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a lot of the things that people want to do whenever they want . I would imagine once you do it once
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or twice , they probably lose a lot of that like excitement
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. So it's funny because it's even a better idea
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of , like , like you said , go rent
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it and do it once . Like , if you do it once , like
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that might get your fix and it's like , yeah
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, now you realize , well , you shouldn't have spent all the money
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to to do that . You don't need that
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type of money to buy those things whenever you want
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because , like you said , you could rent them . But
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yeah , I just think that
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you can also find out that you hate it yeah
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, that he wants to you .
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Take somebody who wants to buy a boat , like for me
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for instance , I want to buy a boat . I really , really want to buy a boat
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and so I've
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rented boats . I've gone on
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boating trips with friends and family and
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love it , know that I
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would get a lot of satisfaction
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and joy out of doing this consistently
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. Okay , I should go and
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buy a boat . I shouldn't take that off the table
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and say I shouldn't go and buy a boat . There are plenty
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of financial reasons why you shouldn't buy a boat . But
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I'm saying , is this a hobby
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that I want to put into the expense
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categories , onto my income
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statement and put the money into
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this and enjoy it ? Or is it something
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I'm going to put a bunch of money into and I'm going to be like
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90% of boat owners who complain about
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all the expenses associated with the boat and
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that's because they bought a boat without
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doing their research and also aren't
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getting the joys and satisfaction out of it
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. I
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could have gone boating and been like , oh fun , but it's kind
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of boring . I'm not really into this , like
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what's the point ? And then in that
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case I would have spent a couple hundred dollars renting
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a boat for a few hours versus
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spending tens of thousands of dollars
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buying a boat yeah , yeah
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, and the other thing I'm getting at too , because
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I like this scenario of like , okay , you have
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a million dollars in the bank .
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You can't touch it , like you mentioned , because
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I think it's a great way to try and figure out . If
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someone's like , what do I want to do with my life ? Like that's
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a good way to figure it out . Like , okay , now
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you can spend it , what would you
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do and that's why I kind of mentioned
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that before , cause it's like , oh , I would buy a helicopter
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, I do this . It's like I think those are
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cover up things . It's
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like , ok , you can go do those one , like one time , but I don't think they're as fulfilling as
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like what would you do your entire life ? You
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know , I mean , if you're 30 and you're a millionaire , if you're
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40 , you're a millionaire , I don't think you're
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, unless you love . Like some people would
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want to fly helicopters for a living . But
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it's like what do you want to spend most of your
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time doing ? I think that's a good way of finding
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it out , especially because I was going to say this , but
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you already said it . You know being balanced . It's
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like I know people that know
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what they want to do , but
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for some reason they're still focused on the money
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and I'm like , well
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, like you're , you're almost more miserable
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because you're trying to achieve
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this type of money . But you could go work at the job
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you want to work , but it doesn't make enough money for
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you . I'm like that makes no sense
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in my mind . I was like just go work the job you
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enjoy , save like and
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do the nice strategies we've talked about in
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all of these podcasts of how to save
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money long term .
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Right as long as .
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long as what they want to do will actually cover the
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expenses .
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Yeah , right , as long , as long as what they want to do will actually cover the expenses and
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allow you to not jeopardize your financial position ? Yes , I mean that's where you
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fall into , that you know , your hobby , your
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hobby has to , you know , make you enough to actually cover
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your expenses , but that's . The
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other thing that I would say is that's
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another fallacy that we get told in our
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youth is go and do what you love . And
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most people that I know that
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have followed their hobbies into
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careers now hate their
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hobbies . And it's because once
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you turn into a job and you have to do it 24 seven
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, it's no longer enjoyable . And
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so you know , both of my brothers are in that
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situation where they followed their hobbies and
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they loved what they did , but
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now it's 50 , 60
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hours a week doing that stuff and it's just no
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longer enjoyable . And so
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they will . Both of them will tell you if
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you're looking to figure out what career you want to go into
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, line up your hobbies from
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first to fifth and don't
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choose your top one . Choose something between two
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and four and
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don't choose your top one . Choose something between two and four , something that you enjoy . But
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that isn't what you do to get rid of stress and have a good time . Don't go after that thing . Go after
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the next rung on the ladder . Go after something you enjoy that can . That , too is job . Satisfaction
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isn't talked about in
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a sliding scale . It's talked
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about as you either love your job or you hate your job , instead
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of a level of satisfaction , because
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I think I would say that I'm somebody who's very fortunate and
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I absolutely love what I do for a living . It's very
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hard for me to pinpoint what that is because I have
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several different businesses and so I'm constantly running
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around doing different things , which I think plays a role . But I pinpoint what that is because I have several different businesses and so I'm constantly running around
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doing different things , which I think plays a role . But I love what I do . But
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I also would tell you that I'm at about
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65% 75% job
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satisfaction . There's still 25%
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to 35% of the time that I absolutely
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hate what I'm doing , but
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I firmly believe that once you crest
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that 70% or better of satisfaction
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, you have found the job
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that you're going to love and you've found what
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you're meant to do , because even
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at 50-50 , 50% of the time
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you love what you do , 50% of the time you hate what you do
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. You're in a good
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spot . But I think society
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has told us oh , follow your dreams , follow your passions
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, do what you love . But
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I think society has told us , oh , follow your dreams , follow your
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passions , do what you love . And that's been misinterpreted as
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do what you love is loving what you do 100 percent
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of the time , and getting out of bed is not going to be hard
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for it . It's going to be very easy . Every single day
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You're going to be jumping for joy and
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that's just not reality .
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That's not reality .
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It sounds nice , it's great , it's very easy to sell , it's very easy to swipe and listen to and buy
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into that , but that's just not reality , like if you want to be able to have an income
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that's going to cover your bills and
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live a moderately stressed
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life instead of a high stress life , because
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I also don't think , you know , the idea of a stress-free
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life just doesn't exist . There's
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a reason why there's shows like the
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Real Housewives and all this stuff that follows
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very wealthy individuals who are chock full
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of stress and drama because money does not
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solve that , and so backing
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up a little bit and just finding
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something that gives you a manageable
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level of stress covers the bills
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. You're going to have to do some things that you
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don't want to do and that you don't like to do
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. That is part of it . Whether
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it's trying to get to your financial freedom target
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, whether it's going to work , going
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to a family party , hanging
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out with friends , there's always
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going to be a certain level of friction
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as a result of us
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being humans , and so I
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would take the same approach that we do in
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friendship relationships as you do with
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your job . You're your best
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friend . It's not because you've never had any
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struggles , it's not because you've never gone through
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anything . It's because you've gone through things successfully
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. You've been able to have stressful moments
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and you've gotten past them . That's
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what solidified and firmed up that relationship
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and what makes you love it so much . The
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same attitude should be approached when we're talking about jobs
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, where it's not that we want
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the easiest job with the least amount
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of friction and the least amount of stress . It's
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one that we want that challenges us , but
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that also allows us to grow
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as an individual and learn things
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about ourselves , get through them , and
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there's going to be crappy days . There's going to be days that you want to quit
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. There's going to be days in your best friend
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relationship that you're like screw
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this person up , like I'm so done with this person
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, I'm cutting them out of my life , and then two weeks later
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you have a responsible conversation
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about it . As adults , you know like , okay , we're
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both emotional and overreacting and let's
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get past this . That's going to happen in the in your work life
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too . If you take your best relationships
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and you compare those
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to your your work life and your job , are
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you approaching it with the same level of you
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know realistic attitude ? Or are you trying
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to say like , okay , I should have a job that's going to be perfect
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all the time and I'm never going to have any issues ? If
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you do , you're going to end up jumping from job to
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job to job , because the minute something
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gets tough , you're going to walk out and you're going
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to want to leave , and then your ability to get the
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next job is going to become that much more difficult
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and that is going to then compound
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into your financial position where you're
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going to have to take a lower salary because nobody
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wants to hire you , because they only think you're going to be there
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for a year or a year and a half before
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you leave . And so now , okay , you take
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a lower salary . Now your finances are pinched
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and your ability to hit your financial freedom target
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gets strained . There's all these different
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levels that as
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a society we don't want to step
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into the uncomfortable and we're constantly
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trying to avoid it . And the reality
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is is that , from a financial perspective , if you
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want to get
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to a point of financial freedom , you're going to have
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to go through financial hardships
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and financial stress in order to build
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those skills and those tools to
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get to that level of success
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that you're looking for , where things become less stressful
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. And I firmly believe that as
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you grow your savings and your investments
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, it becomes less stressful
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. Yes , because you
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have the safety net , but it's
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also because now you know how to get
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out of those tough situations , you know
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how to weather those storms . You know , what timeline
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it's going to take . And so , instead of you
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being stressed because it's not happening , now , you know that it's
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going to take three to six months to take . And so , instead of you being stressed because it's
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not happening , now , you know that it's going to take three to six months to take care of
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that problem . And now , when it takes three to six months , you're like
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okay , I know , this is the process
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, this is what we have to go through , and so a portion
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of it comes from the experience of walking
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through that and now knowing the timelines
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, how to handle it , how to get past it
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, how to handle the , the objection . And
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I just don't think that's the attitude that we approach
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with these things . We take the attitude of I
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want it now , I want it easy and I
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want to stress , free , and that's
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just not realistic clip
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it .
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I mean that was good . Um , no
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, that's yeah , that was
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a great way of putting it . I'm
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not even going to try and add anything
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to it . But , like you said , I mean , yeah , we're
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black and white , that's
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how we're taught to think . And now
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the other thing too , not like it's
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that because we want that stress-free life . But
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I saw one researcher , someone
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, talking about the brain , where the brain's a problem
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solver . I mean that's what it's made to do . So
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if you don't have problems , it will create problems
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. And that's what the housewives makes
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me think of . And I've seen people that don't
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work or you know , or stay
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at home and you sometimes
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look at , like the problems they have and you're like like
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really that's a problem . So it's
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funny just because even as people try
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to escape the stress , it's
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like then you'll start stressing about the dumbest little
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things and not even realize that , because the
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brain just wants to solve problems .
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Right , yeah , that makes sense . I've definitely
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experienced that myself .
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where you like , you're trying to de-stress your life and
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you get to a point where you're like , oh , there's not
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a lot of stress .
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And then like little stupid stuff is what puts you over the edge
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and it's like yeah , I might work
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tough about that , it's not really a problem . But that
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makes sense that your brain is trying to solve . Your
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brain is trying to work and
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you're not giving it anything to work on .
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So yeah , but when you were doing like 10 jobs at once and it's like
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the little things , they even bother you .
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Well , sometimes . Sometimes people blow up too , right
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. Well , but even from a stance that you know the statement of
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if you want something done , give it to the busiest person schedule
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. When I have really busy weeks , I get three
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to four times as much done as
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I do on slow weeks , because when I have a slow week
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I'm like , oh , I can putz around and get
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this done in 45 minutes , instead of just
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getting it done in 20 because , oh
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, I can look , I can follow this little trail and
19:48
figure out what what's going on here , dive a
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little deeper into it . But it's not necessarily
19:52
important to do those things , and so you just
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get distracted .
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But when you know you have a
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very limited amount of time to do it , you're
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going to get it done in that time frame yeah
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, well , I just added that
20:04
in not to take away from the nice thing
20:06
justin said , but but , um
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, yeah , I mean that that was . I
20:11
was like that was a good episode . I like that well , yeah
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.
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Well , it emphasizes the point of the
20:17
fallacy that if
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I get to this financial target , I won't have
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any stress , because the minute
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you remove all stress from your life , your brain is going
20:25
to produce it and make it out
20:27
of nothing . So having
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a certain level of stress is important and
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it's not a bad thing . It's not something we should be trying to get
20:34
away from . We should be getting away from the unhealthy , toxic
20:37
stressors and making
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sure that we have the appropriate levels of stress in
20:41
there that are allowing us to grow as individuals and
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build whatever we're trying to build
20:46
, whether it's a larger financial
20:49
pie that we're a part of , whether it's a
20:51
bigger family , better family relationships
20:54
, whatever the case may be but your
20:56
brain is always going to be attacking some
20:59
sort of stress .
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Thanks for listening to our podcast .
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. Until next time , stay balanced .
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