Stoya and Mitcz start with a discussion of their dating priorities, which leads to them both wondering how anyone else treats the dilemma of an instant electric attraction vs the feeling of safety and security. With this dilemma, they reach out to their friends of a variety of genders and dating situations to ask the question and get a range of responses that illuminate how varied the question itself can evolve, as well as the answers, in this most wide-ranging discussion they’ve had yet.