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Today I messed up by falling for a

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fake job scam and losing three thousand dollars

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out of my begging account. And now I

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feel so embarrassed and angry and incredibly frustrated.

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And at this point I seriously don't know

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what to do. Here's what happened. So I

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want to start this off by saying that

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this happened two weeks ago. I got laid

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off from a job in the middle of

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September and I have been struggling to find

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work. I've got my resume revamped and been

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working with career Coaches, but nothing seems to

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be helping with it. After my final resume

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was returned to me, I began sending off

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applications and within a day or two I

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got an email that a company wanted to

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interview me for a possible remote position and

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when I saw this I was so excited.

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I was so happy that the service worked

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with the career coaches and that all I

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needed to do was both up my resume.

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For the past five years, I've had an

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hour commute each way and then another three

0:50

years of doing forty five minutes before that

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remote work at this point sounded like a

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dream come true. A few days later, they

0:56

send me an interview packet. It's a questionnaire

0:58

in lieu of a panel interview. A little

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strange, but not unheard of. All the

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questions were legit questions and the technical

1:05

ones were very technical. Some companies understand

1:07

that asking someone to come up with

1:09

the optimal solution right on the spot

1:11

and under pressure makes them miss out

1:13

on good candidates that are just awkward

1:15

in those situations. This was a mathematician

1:17

role, so it goes doubly true. I

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spent the next day working on the

1:22

interview packet and forwarding draft to my

1:24

career coach to make sure that I

1:26

wasn't sabotaging myself by being too honest

1:28

as I'm not a great. Salesmen and

1:30

I'm open about things I struggle with. Instead

1:32

of claiming I was some kind of amazing

1:35

employ, the coach said everything checked out and

1:37

that after a few revisions, I had a

1:39

pretty good interview packet so I proceeded to

1:41

send it off. Well, a few days later

1:44

I get the congratulations email and I'm ecstatic.

1:46

I finally have a job doing something I

1:48

like and I get to do it in

1:50

my pajamas. I accept the offer and the

1:52

next day they semi the offer letter and

1:55

ask me to sign. I review the contract

1:57

closely as I'm a paranoid person and so

1:59

far. Seemed a little bit strange that

2:01

I haven't talked to anybody on the phone.

2:03

The contract has all the right logos and

2:05

address, the pay is well within the range

2:08

of the job and everything passes my personal

2:10

tax. So I signed the document and I

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send it back the next day. They send

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me a check for five thousand dollars for

2:16

work equipment and my boss gets in contact

2:18

with me to set up my training and

2:20

explaining the dated a process to me and

2:22

getting a feel for where my coding skills

2:24

are currently ads and again this is not

2:26

out of the ordinary. I've had jobs that

2:29

have sent me checks before. For relocation and

2:31

equipment. But just because I'm paranoid, I

2:33

do some due diligence. And boy do

2:35

I wish I'd done that sooner. The

2:37

domain name for the email address of

2:39

the Hr person looks legit. Know tricky

2:41

characters are misspelled letters. The person I'm

2:43

emailing is the actual Hr person at

2:46

this company and my boss is an

2:48

actual manager at the company as well.

2:50

Detect has the right watermark and addresses

2:52

on it. It is signed by the

2:54

actual Ceo of the company. I mean

2:56

everything is checking out. My boss tells

2:58

me I need to use. Their vendor

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to order the computer as well as anything

3:02

else that might come along with the computer.

3:05

The first blatant red flag popped up here

3:07

for me but the vendor site look legit

3:09

and it was a ten percent discount off

3:11

of Msrp for the equipment that they wanted

3:14

me to have. So I said two thousand

3:16

dollars to the vendor. The order goes through

3:18

and I breathed a bit easier. Now comfortably

3:20

believing I have a job and that this

3:22

is not a scam which is where they

3:25

wanted me, I buttered up and my brain

3:27

is smoothed out. The location of the company

3:29

was Eastern. Time Zone and I live in

3:31

mountain time. So the next morning I woke

3:34

up with a respectable unemployed our of ten

3:36

o'clock in the morning to a series of

3:38

text messages and emails from seven o'clock in

3:40

the morning saying that they're trying to get

3:42

a hold of me and they need me

3:45

to send one thousand dollars to the vendor

3:47

for some additional equipment. Now if you've ever

3:49

been desperately unemployed, the you know that occasionally

3:51

you do some dumb stuff in hopes of

3:54

a job. You know, stuff like accepting lower

3:56

pay, taking something that you're overqualified for, or

3:58

in my case, worry that. Going to

4:00

fire me before I even get started. So

4:02

half asleep I said another thousand dollars but

4:05

my idiot can tell something is up now.

4:07

A couple of hours later they try to

4:09

get me to send more money and I

4:11

tell them that I hit my card limit

4:13

for the day and I couldn't spend any

4:16

more. So they then ask me to do

4:18

something that I honestly never expected. They asked

4:20

me to go to a Bitcoin eighty. I'm

4:22

just so I could send them Bitcoin. At

4:24

that point my heart sank and I realize

4:27

that not only was I getting scammed but

4:29

that I was also l Three thousand dollars

4:31

which is money I need to survive as

4:33

an unemployed person. I start reviewing everything and

4:35

notice that I've literally been strung along this

4:38

entire time as if I'm in the game.

4:40

Bio Shock: As I stroll through the messages,

4:42

the amount of times they strung be a

4:44

suddenly left out to me. I mean how

4:46

can I be so stupid? I decided to

4:49

keep these guys going for a while instead

4:51

of immediately calling them out. I figured if

4:53

they're wasting time on me than they can't

4:55

use it on someone else. Meanwhile, I went

4:57

on linked in and sound the cyber security.

5:00

Manager and hit a mob asking of what's

5:02

going on. I end up talking to one

5:04

of the managers that confirmed that it was

5:06

indeed a scam, that I had a real

5:08

check their belong to the company and that

5:10

all the documents were real but it just

5:12

wasn't real for me. I then call it

5:15

my bag. I'm filing for fraud and making

5:17

a police report. Obviously there isn't much they

5:19

can do for me, but there's always a

5:21

chance that a scam this elaborate could be

5:23

on done by them not using spoof numbers.

5:25

As we come to a close of my

5:27

link the tail, I do have some relatively

5:29

good news. I have gotten back to one

5:32

thousand dollars I said now it's I have

5:34

no idea what happened to the other two

5:36

thousand and a definitely not holding my breath.

5:38

but it's something. If you've ever been scammed

5:40

before, I can now tell you that it

5:42

is one of the worst feelings. You feel

5:44

dumb, embarrassed, angry, and ashamed, You feel afraid,

5:46

and so many other emotions. I've always said

5:48

that everybody is vulnerable to at least one

5:51

scam and you know what? I finally found

5:53

mine. I'm lucky to have a supportive wife

5:55

who has and yelled at me, yet somehow

5:57

about being dumb and least I can talk

5:59

to my dad about how much this socks.

6:01

So the moral of the story is that

6:03

everybody is vulnerable and if you're shaking your

6:05

head right now saying know that could never

6:07

happen to me more, Guess what? This especially

6:10

can happen to you. So it's better for

6:12

you to stay safe and stay smart so

6:14

that you don't fall for stamps and a

6:16

way that I dared. Wow, What a crazy

6:18

situation! If I lost two thousand dollars just

6:20

like that, I think I would lose my

6:22

mind. Like first of all, the fact that

6:24

they're scamming people who are looking for jobs.

6:26

That is such a disturbing thing to do

6:29

to somebody that it's honestly. Just so unfair

6:31

because then you run into people like the original

6:33

poster where they are literally desperate for a job.

6:35

They're trying their best to stay afloat and not

6:37

miss out on all the money they could be

6:39

earning the only have a couple thousand dollars to

6:42

their name and they are literally just trying to

6:44

make ends meet. So when they think they had

6:46

this big job and they're doing exactly what these

6:48

people say, they can be very easy to fall

6:50

for this kind of stuff. I mean, I'm pretty

6:53

sure if I was in this original poster shoes

6:55

I might have followed for this to. I really

6:57

think you can happen to anybody if you're not

6:59

careful. So sure. This is a mess up

7:01

to a degree, but at least now you

7:03

know exactly what to look out for in

7:06

the future. But it honestly just really sucks

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that you had to learn this the hard

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own stories and entitled military veterans demands that

7:23

we stay behind for a special event, claiming

7:25

that he has more than qualified to take

7:28

care of this hyperactive seven year old. Kid.

7:30

So we decide to maliciously comply and

7:32

literally watch this man fall apart of

7:34

the seems unable to control this child

7:36

who was clearly never going to listen.

7:38

Here's what happened: So this happened years

7:40

ago with myself, a friend, my then

7:42

boyfriend and his daughter. We couldn't do

7:44

much for toys for this particular Christmas,

7:46

but our family was nominated for an

7:48

event called Shop with a Veteran. It's

7:50

where kids go to a Walmart with

7:53

a veteran and can pick out their

7:55

own Christmas guess with a set amount

7:57

of money donated by civilians and other

7:59

veterans. The thing is is only the

8:01

vet drinking go in with them. I

8:03

had later found out it was because

8:05

some parents had earlier try to persuade

8:07

their kids to death things that were

8:09

more cater to parents or another child.

8:11

Instead, as a child who was nominated,

8:13

I can definitely understand the role being

8:15

enforced for this, but some children should

8:17

have their paired with them pretty much.

8:19

Regardless, my boyfriends daughter was diagnosed with

8:21

severe eighty Hd and had taken her

8:23

medication. That see had gotten very excited

8:26

when she found out about going to

8:28

get Christmas gifts of her choosing. We.

8:30

Saw the lady hosting and explain to her

8:32

about the daughters a D H D and

8:34

how see can be a whirlwind which he

8:36

gets excited and how she doesn't like to

8:38

listen to people she doesn't know. When we

8:40

explained to the lady hosting the event that

8:42

one of us really should go in with

8:44

his daughter just to make sure she behaved,

8:46

See, understood and talked to the veteran who

8:48

was going to shop with the daughter. We

8:50

immediately argued claiming he was tired of parents

8:52

wanting to pressure their kids to getting things.

8:54

They did it once and he wanted the

8:56

daughter to have a good time picking out.

8:58

Or deft the lady try. To explain the

9:01

situation but the veteran wouldn't hear any of

9:03

it. I clearly remember him grumbling at us.

9:05

He said to us i've been to war,

9:07

I can handle a kid So I thought

9:09

to myself, okay, you're going to get exactly

9:11

what you want. After the veteran took the

9:13

daughter into the store, we saw two friends

9:15

going in and we didn't know that they

9:17

would be there, but we were happy to

9:19

see them nonetheless. Well, my boyfriend caught up

9:21

with them and ask one of them as

9:23

they could keep an eye on the daughter

9:26

and a veteran. My boyfriends and emphasized that

9:28

the veteran clearly thought he could handle his

9:30

daughter. So they should just let him handler.

9:32

We waited for about an hour when the

9:34

Federal return with the daughter. See was grinning

9:36

ear to ear with all the presence of

9:38

she was able to get and a veteran

9:40

looked exhausted and like he had been through

9:42

an absolute nightmare back either yielded us that

9:44

the daughter was the most disrespectful brat he

9:46

has ever mad house he just had to

9:48

touch all the toys and through everything she

9:51

wanted into the shopping cart and see was

9:53

a nightmare when he told her she couldn't

9:55

have everything she picked out Well my boyfriend

9:57

packed his daughters gifts in the car and

9:59

then to. Back inside to start our grocery

10:01

shopping, we couldn't do a while. She was

10:03

in there with a veteran because we had

10:05

to wait outside for when they were done

10:07

so we could immediately take her and her

10:09

gifts, which is understandable they were babysitters after

10:11

all. I decided to talk to the veteran

10:13

and told my boyfriend that I'd meet him

10:15

inside. I asked him if he was okay

10:17

and he said that he was fine, but

10:19

then asked us why didn't we tell him

10:21

that our daughter was crazy? I probably corrected

10:23

him by saying that she was not crazy.

10:25

I explained her a D H D to

10:28

him and how we only wanted to go.

10:30

In with them so that See would behave.

10:32

We know that See knows to behave around

10:34

us at school and at Grandma's house. We

10:36

explain how she doesn't like to listen to

10:38

strangers even if we know them and See

10:41

doesn't I apologized and told him that not

10:43

all parents want to go when to use

10:45

this as some kind of excuse to get

10:47

their own gifts. Some genuinely just want to

10:50

make sure their kids are behaving later in

10:52

the store or friend. Caught up with us

10:54

and told us everything that happened. The daughter

10:56

had run up and down the toys isles.

10:58

See kept going back. And forth from the

11:01

toys to the card throwing in anything the

11:03

seated get her hands on. See even screamed

11:05

at the veteran when he put some toys

11:07

bags which is typical behavior when her normal

11:10

authority figures are watching when he was satisfied

11:12

with a toy See did get see kept

11:14

asking for candy at the checked out which

11:16

is something see as of pretty much anyone

11:19

would we go to the store? It was

11:21

amusing to us that a grizzled military veteran

11:23

was outmatched by a hyperactive seven year old.

11:25

We have since then been much better off

11:28

and we donate money to this event. Every

11:30

year and even toys for any to

11:32

a drive they have. The veteran still

11:34

does the events, but he's more understanding

11:36

when certain children need their parents to

11:38

go with them. He does get the

11:40

odd pushy parrot every now and then,

11:42

but now he handles them rather than

11:44

flat out denying all parents from ever

11:46

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knowing what they're getting into. like seriously of

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the parents are literally coming to you and

14:45

be like, wait a second We really should

14:47

be present for when she goes into that

14:49

store. That's probably a clear sign that yeah,

14:51

I should probably listen to them and put

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my pride on the back burner so that

14:55

I can have something to work with here,

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because clearly this girl was like absolutely obnoxious.

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She was running all over the place, throwing

15:01

toys in the basket left and right. She

15:03

was acting like a kid who clearly had

15:05

a D H D. And I also echo

15:07

the way the original poster felt. I find

15:09

it hilarious that this guy thought he could

15:12

handle this child so good for you for

15:14

maliciously complying because this guy clearly was not

15:16

going get it. and at least now it

15:19

seems like he's learned a very valuable lesson

15:21

about letting parents come along if they really

15:23

requested. My entitled boss, Castilla, screams at their

15:25

staff any time they even walk in the

15:28

building demanding that they work right away. So

15:30

I decided to set up a resistance, coordinating

15:32

with everybody in the office to only show

15:34

up right when we were supposed to clock

15:37

and and I've never felt more satisfied. To

15:39

get back to this boss and a really

15:41

subtle way, here's what happened. I used to

15:44

work in a trade shop run by a

15:46

great boss. Everybody got along great with that

15:48

is except for one very specific department had

15:50

let's call them Bumble Bee for reasons that

15:52

are unrelated to this story. the boss decided

15:55

to sell the shop to Bumble Bee and

15:57

in the wake the majority of the staff

15:59

quit. And months leaving us completely under

16:01

staffed. I naively decided to stick it out

16:04

and assume that Bumble Bee would hire people

16:06

to fill the empty positions. But guess what?

16:08

they didn't do that. We go from a

16:10

fifteen percent rate shop all the way down

16:13

to five people within a year. and that

16:15

includes the six people who turned over one

16:17

of the many issues that developed and trust

16:19

me, there were many was Bumble Bees inability

16:22

to schedule or think through absence to the

16:24

end and just plan ahead. While I worked

16:26

there which was about two years with the

16:29

original boss, I often came in ten to

16:31

fifteen minutes early due to the nature of

16:33

my commute. I'd come in, unload my stuff,

16:35

make some coffee, small talk with a co,

16:38

workers, have some small talk with my boss,

16:40

but we never really started work until everybody

16:42

scheduled start time when Bumble Bee took over.

16:45

The moment you step into the shop, they

16:47

immediately started to bark orders that you regardless

16:49

if you were in the building fifteen to

16:51

twenty minutes early now at this point and

16:54

the most senior and on the person left

16:56

at the shop from the old regime and

16:58

when I would point out. That we technically

17:00

we're not on the clock yet for another

17:02

fifteen to twenty minutes and that I want

17:05

to make some coffee bubble be with your

17:07

snap at you telling you to do it

17:09

now because so and So is coming right

17:11

at opening. So I started to wait in

17:13

my car bringing coffee from home and would

17:15

only walk in the door as the last

17:17

minute was changing. I was technically never late

17:19

to work and was ready to work the

17:21

moment I stepped through the door. I don't

17:23

know if Bumble Bee caught on, but the

17:25

rest of the staff did and followed suit,

17:27

especially because I told him to for the

17:29

remaining months. I lasted. They're all my coworkers

17:31

with still often show up early to work,

17:33

but all would wait in the vehicle and

17:36

at some point one of them had a

17:38

mini van and we all were just party

17:40

in there with all of us eventually going

17:42

in as a group. Any time a new

17:44

person joined the staff because someone always walked

17:46

off, we would also warned them of what

17:48

was happening. Well, it's been several years since

17:50

I work there and I don't know any

17:52

of the current staff besides Bumble Bee. I

17:54

happened to be doing it on site in

17:57

Stone nearby at the time that the sub

17:59

would be open. And I looked over the

18:01

parking lot in front of the shop. and

18:03

just like clockwork a minute before the shop

18:05

was scheduled to open, about six people got

18:07

out of their vehicles and headed an now

18:09

I mean I work there any longer, but

18:11

it's nice to see them. My resistance is

18:13

still going on. Honestly, this is really the

18:15

best way to go about doing this. It's

18:17

bad enough when you have a manager who

18:20

just sucks at their job and ten even

18:22

schedule people properly or on time. Like, seriously,

18:24

what's up with that But you also have

18:26

a manager who is very clearly a hot

18:28

had. I mean they were barking orders. That

18:30

you the second you walked in the door.

18:32

Like seriously. I came in early to have

18:34

a cup of coffee and try to gather

18:36

my thoughts. I didn't step in the building

18:38

to then start working off the clock. Like

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seriously, don't try to make people worked off

18:42

the clock, Give people a second to gather

18:44

their thoughts and train, have some semblance of

18:46

happiness for their job that day. But you

18:49

know, what? With all things considered, I personally

18:51

think the way the original poster what about

18:53

doing this was really smart. They didn't technically

18:55

break any rules, but they did decide. You

18:57

know what? We're not going to take this

18:59

any longer. And so they literally started a

19:01

resistance to be like no, we're not going

19:03

to work until we have to clock am

19:06

And honestly, with all things considered, I think

19:08

that's a great idea. And it's really funny

19:10

to see that that tradition is still ongoing.

19:12

My boyfriends house is absolutely disgusting and now

19:15

after visiting and experiencing this disgusting environment, I'm

19:17

now reconsidering my entire relationship with my boyfriend.

19:19

and at this point, I seriously don't know

19:21

what to do. Here's what happened: So, I've

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been seeing and dating this guy since July

19:26

and things have been going really good. It's

19:28

a long distance situation, but we've managed to

19:30

see each other at least once a month

19:33

so far. He's been kind and thoughtful and

19:35

no major red flags were detected on my

19:37

end. Well, that is until recently the first

19:39

time I flew out to visit him. I

19:42

decided to stay at and Air B and

19:44

B since we were getting to know each

19:46

other and I wanted my own space. The

19:48

trip went super well and I had an

19:51

amazing time. Last week I went back and

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he invited me to stay with him this

19:55

time. He lives with his brother and dad,

19:57

but his dad was away so it. The

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Sense and I agreed. When I got to

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his house it was late and dark so

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I didn't notice much other than a weird

20:06

smell. They have three dogs and live on

20:09

an island so I figure that had something

20:11

to do with it. When I woke up

20:13

I started to notice the house was pretty

20:15

dirty. Things were scattered everywhere, the bathroom had

20:17

dogs here and dirt and overall it looks

20:20

like it hadn't been kept up in quite

20:22

a while. Now I try to look past

20:24

it since there are two guys living there

20:26

and I kept a positive attitude. Nobody gave

20:28

me any run down about the situation or

20:31

apologize for the mess, but I figured his

20:33

dad might have a small hoarding problem of

20:35

some sort. Of the second day I started

20:37

to notice even more things. The dog still

20:40

get walked so they go to the bathroom

20:42

inside the house and in the laundry area

20:44

that's right by the kitchen. The only get

20:46

lead out to the side yard from time

20:48

to time and the dogs have to pass

20:51

by the bathroom to get to it, which

20:53

explains why they're so much hair and paw

20:55

prints and dirt all over the place. I

20:57

even started feeling uncomfortable showering bear because I

20:59

didn't. Feel like I was in a clean

21:02

environment and I feel terrible for the animals.

21:04

Then a really awful smell that almost made

21:06

me throw up appear for the laundry area.

21:08

He mentioned it and I asked him what

21:10

he thought it was and he said it

21:12

was puke from the dogs but he couldn't

21:14

see where it was coming from. The day

21:17

after he wanted to invite his friends over

21:19

to hang out so I told them he'd

21:21

have to clean up that smell at the

21:23

very least. before they arrived he told me

21:25

that he would is he had the time

21:27

and I started to feel even more disgusted

21:29

them before. Well, he didn't have enough time

21:32

for the next day and his brother and

21:34

him figured it was a great idea to

21:36

burn cantaloupe incense right before their friends came

21:38

in just to try and mass of the

21:40

smell. The were hanging out on the table

21:42

right by the smell the entire time they

21:44

were there. At this point I was beyond

21:46

grossed out. I spoke to him about it

21:48

as well as the mess and the lack

21:50

of urgency to clean up the smell and

21:52

he said that staying on top of cleaning

21:54

with the dogs was an uphill battle and

21:56

he had to some degree just given up

21:58

on even trying to keep things. Clean. He

22:00

also told me that he doesn't plan on living

22:02

like that once he lives on his own and

22:04

will not be getting any pets. As for the

22:07

smell, he told me that he didn't think that

22:09

it was puke and thought it might be some

22:11

sort of animal or rodents and didn't want to

22:13

clean it up and find something in front of

22:15

me. so he brushed it off as much as

22:17

he could just so he could get to it.

22:20

After I left, I told him I would have

22:22

rather seem whatever a wise and saw that there

22:24

was at least some initiative on his part to

22:26

clean it up right that in there as opposed

22:28

to letting me saying that. It's not a priority

22:31

to live in a clean space. I feel

22:33

weird because cleanliness is very important to me

22:35

and I just can't imagine what I experienced.

22:37

I do not want nor could I live

22:39

like that in the future and I kind

22:41

of when it ended. But he is a

22:43

great guy and all other respects So now

22:45

I'm honestly it's such a loss and I

22:47

seriously don't know what to do. The way

22:49

your boyfriend is living is absolutely disgusting. Like

22:52

he is letting the dogs go to the

22:54

bathroom inside the house, he's letting the smells

22:56

in the awful mess just pile up, and

22:58

he has no initiative to try and take

23:00

care of it. like right away or even

23:02

in like I don't know the next ourselves.

23:04

Like this guy. Super lazy and trust me

23:06

when I say this, I'm writing with you.

23:08

How can anybody live that way That seriously

23:10

is so disgusting, It's not even funny and

23:13

I really think it's walls of you to

23:15

identify this as a massive red flag. And

23:17

here's the thing. I don't believe this guy

23:19

for a second when he's like, oh yeah,

23:21

I'm not going live like this when I

23:23

have my own place. It's like body Guess

23:25

you absolutely are. If you're willing to let

23:27

this slide and this kind of environment than

23:29

you're. Absolutely going to let that slide in

23:31

another environment claiming you're not gonna do that

23:34

in a new place, all without any kind

23:36

of evidence to back that up in my

23:38

opinion is just a straight of live like

23:40

he couldn't even higher like a cleaning service

23:42

to do a deep clean all day like

23:44

even while he's at work or something like

23:46

that. I mean it might be expensive, but

23:48

good lord it's better than what they're living

23:50

in right now. So honestly, I don't blame

23:53

you for reconsidering this relationship because this guy

23:55

lives like an absolute slob and that in

23:57

my opinion is absolutely unacceptable. When use of

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