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The following focus on the family broadcast was

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one of our top programs from the past

0:04

year. So, uh,

0:07

so, son, why don't you sit right

0:09

down here and, uh, we'll have a- What

0:11

do you want to talk about, dad? Mm-hmm. Oh,

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about our dog, dad? Can we get

0:20

a dog? Huh? Huh? Huh? No.

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No dog. Your

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mother and I thought, well, you're

0:27

getting older now, son, right? And we thought that

0:29

you should know about, uh... Spider-Man?

0:31

You want to talk about Spider-Man?

0:34

He's a really cool super. He

0:36

can swing webs- Spider-Man? No, no.

0:38

Oh, must concentrate.

0:45

Where do you think babies come from, son? Whew.

0:48

Uh, from the hospital? Good

0:51

answer! I'm glad we could,

0:53

uh, have this important talk, son. Oh

0:56

my, it is tempting sometimes, isn't it, to

0:59

put off that big talk with your pre-teen.

1:01

Well, today on Focus on the Family, we

1:04

have a conversation with some parents who had

1:06

the courage to step up and have a

1:08

series of important conversations with their kids before

1:10

the teen years, and they had fun in

1:12

the process. Your host is

1:14

Focus on the Family president and

1:16

author, Jim Daley, and I'm John

1:18

Fuller. John, that humorous clip we

1:20

just heard captures the importance of

1:22

having needed conversations with our children,

1:24

but God's design for sex in

1:26

marriage, self-image bullying, and choosing

1:29

good friends are just

1:31

examples of all the things we need to begin

1:33

to talk about sooner rather

1:35

than later. All of these things are

1:37

especially important in preparing for the teen

1:39

years. So parents need

1:41

to help build a strong foundation

1:43

when their kids are younger. Knowledge

1:46

is power, and if we equip our

1:49

kids early enough, they'll have the power

1:51

to stand up for what's right and

1:53

against the strong tide of the culture.

1:55

And parents today, I mean, we've got a

1:58

big challenge here because of technology. and

2:00

other things that kids have access to. Yeah, my

2:02

kids are adults. I think if you ask them,

2:04

they would remember some of those important moments where

2:06

we had discussions about some of the topics you

2:08

talked about. It was good. Yeah, and

2:10

I did the same with my two boys, and it

2:12

was good. It was a little

2:14

clumsy. It was awkward. Yeah, right. But

2:17

that's part of it. I think I got

2:19

to Trent on the talk at about 12

2:22

and Troy at about 11. And

2:24

I don't think they actually compared notes. I don't

2:26

think either of them talked to each other, which

2:28

I thought was interesting. Well, we've got them on the

2:30

line now, Gene. We're

2:32

in trouble now. But we need to be vulnerable

2:35

and honest as parents. And this is a great

2:37

thing. One of the things I

2:39

always told my boys is that God, it's

2:41

a gift that He's giving us for our wedding night.

2:45

And He is a wonderful gift giver. And

2:47

that's how I kind of framed it, that

2:50

this isn't the kind of thing you opened

2:52

before on Christmas, like when they peek at

2:54

the gifts, that God's intimacy and what He

2:56

wants to share in terms of our intimacy

2:59

with our spouse is for

3:01

the wedding night. And that's been a

3:03

great way. They've really have really embraced

3:05

that. And I'm glad. Yeah. And

3:07

all of this is why we've created a curriculum called

3:09

Launch Into the Teen Years. It's

3:12

been revised, actually, and enhanced based

3:14

on input from parents of

3:16

going through the series with their kids. So

3:18

there's a parents guide and a child's journal

3:20

and a six-part video download. And

3:23

all of that is developed around

3:25

a biblical framework. And

3:27

today we have some parents to share

3:30

their perspectives on using the Launch Into

3:32

the Teen Years kit. And

3:34

I'm really glad that they've joined us. We

3:36

have Shauna Hudson, Ellen Slatman

3:38

and Nick DuPont. And

3:41

as we begin, just a word to parents, there will be

3:43

some content in here that is kind of PG-13. Yeah,

3:46

that's good. Good morning, John. Welcome to all

3:48

three of you. Thank you. Thank you. So

3:50

good to have you. We kind of set the stage. Let

3:53

me ask all three of you. It doesn't have to go in any

3:55

order. Just jump out there. Why

3:57

Did you feel it was important to go through?

4:00

Launch into the teen years with your

4:02

kids or what motivated you to go?

4:04

Okay, it's time. So I

4:07

think for me there are two things

4:09

and I think one is that silence

4:11

just simply is not an option and

4:13

the world speak so loudly to our

4:15

kids and especially are teenagers and so

4:17

for us silence less than an option.

4:19

The second part was on. My kids

4:21

were little older when we went through

4:23

launch and so we had already done

4:25

some talks and some books and when

4:27

I looked at this one is had

4:29

a lot of the topics that other

4:31

ones don't feel like you identity and

4:33

Christ. That is really important to us

4:35

or more than just. The sex talk it

4:37

was an those types of things. That were

4:39

important l would have a you. One of

4:41

the reasons I wanted to go through this is because.

4:44

I wanted to do something different than

4:46

what I grew up with. Hit. It

4:48

was awkward. It was a one time

4:50

discussion of will Get a Book and

4:52

I don't know if we ever discussed

4:55

it again. So writer so that minimal

4:57

yeah to be uncomfortable Most of it.

4:59

I mean I join us. I wanted

5:01

says maybe try something new, make it

5:03

better, Complete. Would help.

5:05

Ya and at. Oh and next

5:07

what's your story of with Launch

5:09

A So my parents are. They

5:11

got a divorce, was fourteen years

5:13

old arm and even though I

5:15

was raised in the church I

5:17

really didn't know my identity and

5:19

price. Hum and so I spent.

5:22

Several. Years to serve, trying to

5:24

wing it on my own hand

5:26

cassettes too. lofty expectations for myself

5:29

you know, another people and quite

5:31

frankly made a lot of. Bad.

5:33

Choices? Sure. Didn't.

5:36

Want my my sunday Go through

5:38

that without any credence. Have

5:41

them was kind so I'm yeah it

5:43

was. I was looking for something that

5:45

will help of from his infinite value

5:48

in god. And

5:50

also let him know that it's

5:52

worth being faithful friend and at

5:54

home to seek out with friends.

5:56

and that's really good. The. The.

6:00

Launched kid encourages you as a

6:02

parent to be vulnerable, relate your

6:04

own experiences and that's like Nick,

6:06

you're leaning towards that direction that

6:08

can be. Can a delicate how

6:10

much to express to a twelve

6:13

eleven year old? Maybe thirteen year

6:15

old about your experiences of parents.

6:17

Had a Jew go about balancing

6:19

being open and vulnerable with your

6:21

children yet the same time? maybe

6:23

not saying everything's to that's pretty

6:26

young to go into your experiences

6:28

as a teenager if that's. The

6:30

direction you when it is. I mean

6:32

yeah, he can serve. Obviously you're not

6:34

going to lay out every detail, but

6:36

you are going to let them know

6:39

that are your viewers human as the

6:41

next person and that being flawed is

6:43

is being human You know. As we

6:45

stayed the word together Noah started to

6:48

say you know dad is like characters

6:50

in the Bible that that they kind

6:52

of messed up. You know before God

6:54

was able to help them out. So

6:56

I think from that he. Got.

6:59

That yeah we're we're all flawed

7:01

and I'm I said that's a

7:03

good benefit that he connected the

7:05

dots that way that that you

7:07

know characters in the bible are

7:09

perfect people. only one Jesus at

7:11

that. I shot a you also

7:13

with your kids they had some

7:15

spiritual our houses well what happened.

7:18

Yeah was very surprised there's a part in

7:20

launched that arms. it's like him that extra

7:22

credit and their coaching notes and it says

7:24

if you want to you can have your

7:26

clothes and talk about the questions with the

7:28

truthfulness of the bible and I thought one

7:30

that it won't have. Any questions that are

7:32

ago hadn't just sat and I was dumbfounded

7:35

on by the questions that they had. That

7:37

what I learned about that was it gave

7:39

me the opportunity. First I was able to

7:41

peek into their heart and see what it

7:43

was that they questioned and then I was

7:45

able to say to them listen God is

7:47

so bad. He loves your questions so bring

7:49

every question you have to hand because he

7:51

has the answers and a lot of the

7:53

things. I as I had no clue about

7:55

recess and I said i don't know that

7:57

these are questions that will find out together.

8:00

Yeah, that is so good. I want to make

8:02

sure people hear that that rather than give a

8:04

false answer or just a misguided

8:06

answer Admit you don't know

8:08

the answer to the question. Let's go discover it

8:11

together. I think that's such a critical

8:13

point I'm glad you made

8:15

that sometimes as parents we can

8:17

mess up by just trying to

8:19

be all knowledgeable We're not Nick

8:22

There's an illustration in the

8:24

kit where we describe friendship

8:26

fences and the importance of

8:28

creating those Friendship fences.

8:31

How did you absorb that and how did

8:33

you illustrate that to your son? Yeah So

8:36

the the friendship fence

8:38

is a barrier that

8:40

a child puts between their heart

8:42

and their life It's

8:45

a metaphor for what

8:47

type of friends They're going to allow

8:49

kind of in into their inner circle

8:51

or to influence them in in

8:54

a big way So every fence has

8:57

a gate and if you leave that

8:59

gate open There's going to be a lot of

9:01

people trying to come in and and

9:03

influence you So if

9:06

a potential friend has the character

9:09

traits that are in your friendship

9:11

fence Like being a

9:13

faithful friend as opposed to being a fair-weather friend

9:17

Being able to forgive people or

9:19

be forgiving as opposed to being

9:21

more toxic and and holding a

9:23

grudge Then they're allowed to come

9:25

in now. That doesn't mean that everybody else is

9:28

you know on the outside You

9:30

still want to you know talk with everybody love

9:32

on everybody But you're not just

9:34

going to let them be in that in

9:37

that inner circle of your yeah It's

9:39

so good to give young people permission

9:41

to think logically about what is healthy

9:43

for me And sometimes if

9:46

you're not having those discussions as

9:48

a 12 year old, you know Is it

9:50

okay if I don't let somebody in my fence

9:53

and you don't really know the answer that maybe

9:55

you feel mean-spirited Or you know I'm

9:57

not being kind if I don't let that person

10:00

into my area, right? Shauna,

10:02

let me move to another concept out

10:05

of the kit. We describe consumers

10:09

and contributors. How

10:11

did you apply that? What do those terms mean and

10:13

how did you apply it? So the

10:15

terms are described for you in the

10:17

Launch Journal, which is really nice. And

10:20

it talks about that consumers, we're consumers

10:22

by nature, that we want what's best

10:24

for us and that we don't

10:26

often think about other people. And so it

10:28

talked about friendships and how we could be

10:31

contributors. And what I liked with

10:33

the friendship fence was I had my kids

10:35

draw it on a piece of paper and

10:37

then they took all of their friends, I

10:39

had them list their friends, and then they

10:41

put each friend inside or outside of the

10:43

fence. And then I had them also

10:45

put themselves where they were for each friend.

10:48

And so it was good because we were having

10:50

friendship issues at the time and it was really

10:52

good for them to be able to see maybe

10:54

some of my problems is that I'm being a

10:56

consumer. I'm in this friendship for me. What can

10:58

I get out of this person instead of what

11:00

does this person need from me?

11:03

Maybe God put this person in my life

11:05

because this person needs me and not

11:07

that I need that person. And that

11:10

was a great conversation. Yeah, and I

11:12

think that's so good to say when

11:14

we approach the building of Launch into

11:16

the Teen years that it's not just

11:18

about sexuality. It's about human behavior, right?

11:20

Which, of course, sexuality is a

11:22

big part of it, but it's also how you

11:24

treat people and how they treat you in

11:27

all facets. Ellen, another

11:29

area that's not directly related

11:31

to the sex talk as

11:33

we've been describing, but

11:36

bullying. Bullying is on the

11:38

rise. There's more of it today, I think, than

11:40

there has been maybe in years past. And

11:43

you entered into that discussion with your kids

11:45

and you were a bit surprised to find

11:47

out some things. What happened? I

11:50

was surprised. My second

11:52

son Cole, I

11:54

went through it with two of our boys, and Cole, his

11:57

personality is very confident. He

12:00

appears as though friendships are great and

12:02

he doesn't really let me

12:05

in otherwise, emotionally like that. And I just

12:07

never worried about it. And we got into

12:09

the discussion on bullying and I was

12:12

super surprised that he struggled with

12:14

it and he

12:16

started crying and you know.

12:19

It touched a tender spot. Totally, he had

12:21

kids, you know what, it might have been just a

12:23

temporary thing but there were kids that were

12:25

making fun of different things about his appearance

12:28

and he was something that

12:30

he had done to one of them. They

12:32

were making fun of and it was

12:35

such a good thing for me to

12:37

see that on the outside he appeared

12:39

to be doing great

12:41

but I as a parent, you know,

12:44

I know in the future I need to be asking

12:47

those questions even when all appears

12:49

calm and good. Yeah

12:51

and that's again why we developed this

12:53

program, Launch, into the teen years. It's

12:56

a terrific kit. If you haven't

12:58

yet had conversations like we're hearing about

13:00

today, contact us and get a

13:02

copy of the Launch, into the teen years kit.

13:05

The link is in the episode notes or

13:08

call 1-800 the letter A in the word

13:10

family. You know, God's design for sex is

13:12

a beautiful thing. It's one of those things

13:14

that the world has totally manipulated,

13:16

right? And the big

13:19

pornography industry and all those kinds of things.

13:21

But God attended us to be a wonderful

13:23

gift in the context of marriage.

13:25

And oh, even saying it, you're so old fashioned.

13:27

We get that. I'm proud of being old fashioned

13:29

in that way, right? And it's

13:31

healthy for human beings to be in

13:33

that kind of monogamous relationship. And

13:36

in that way, the

13:39

Launch, into the teen years describes it

13:42

and talks about sex within marriage. But

13:45

you alluded to it, Ellen, that it

13:47

can feel a little uncomfortable. And

13:49

then you're talking about, and I'm gonna get

13:51

from each of you how that experience came

13:54

around for you. But you have

13:56

both daughters and sons. I only had sons. So

13:59

Jean got off. rather easily, I would add.

14:01

I only have some. But

14:03

Jean, she just reinforced what I had expressed

14:05

to the boys. It was really my job

14:08

to take the boys for the weekend and

14:10

make sure that they understood what

14:12

it's all about. So

14:15

I want to get, let's start, Ellen, with

14:17

you, how just the awkwardness of it and

14:19

then how you got motivated to

14:21

go. Yeah. I was

14:23

just grateful. Approaching

14:26

this, it was just overwhelming. I

14:28

had no idea how to introduce

14:30

a topic and how far

14:32

to go or what to talk about. What

14:35

about your husband too? Yeah, he was in. So

14:38

through launch, I did most

14:40

of the bully chapters

14:42

in the friendship. But I was like, you

14:45

need to take care of it. Because this is the

14:47

nitty gritty part. Yeah. So we watched

14:49

the video together with our boys. We

14:52

were so grateful for the guidance

14:54

that it provided. And

14:57

it wasn't like you just dove into

14:59

sex and what it is. It was

15:02

relationships and then how they progressed. Let

15:04

me ask you in that regard, did you and your

15:06

husband both sat together with your boys? We did. So

15:09

you were present. I was present. Yep. I

15:12

like that. Yeah. I

15:14

mean, he obviously led the conversation. I was

15:16

there and my boys are comfortable with that.

15:19

Did he do any follow-up one-on-one with them

15:21

as kind of a man to the boys? No.

15:24

I don't think they're there yet. Okay.

15:27

All right. No, that's good to

15:29

know. For what we talked about, they were engaged. No, I appreciate that.

15:31

And your boys at the time of the talk were how

15:33

old? 11 and 12. Yeah. Okay.

15:36

How about you, Shana? So this was

15:38

not our first talk with either one

15:41

of our children, Brendan or Reese. So

15:43

you kind of did drip irrigation? Before

15:45

this, we used kind of some other discussions

15:47

and talks and so on. And so

15:50

I wasn't at all nervous because the other

15:52

videos had been so good and the conversation

15:54

had been good. I knew this was just

15:56

going to be another touch point with my

15:58

children. Right. did though that

16:00

I thought was helpful that wasn't in

16:02

the guide was with my son.

16:05

We also watched the girls portion

16:07

and with my daughter we watched

16:09

the boys portion. That's interesting. Yeah.

16:12

Because it was so tactfully done that I

16:14

thought, hmm, I'm sure they have questions and this

16:16

might just be a good way to explain it

16:18

and I didn't have to do much of the

16:20

talking because it's in the video. And

16:23

so that was helpful I thought. No, that's a really

16:25

good idea. How about you Nick? How old

16:27

were your kids when you had this talk?

16:29

Oh, so I have four

16:31

kids and so this is somewhat old

16:34

hat to me but never easy. So

16:37

they were probably all about 12 or 13 years old. 12ish,

16:40

13. Yeah. Okay,

16:42

good. Let's play a clip. We

16:45

have a sample from launch that shares the

16:47

importance of controlling passion and saving yourself for

16:49

marriage as God intended. And

16:52

let's listen as Brandon

16:54

Carmier and Jesse Manassian, both

16:56

good friends of ours and our

16:58

own Danny Huerta who heads up

17:00

our parenting area, have a description

17:02

or a discussion around a fire

17:05

pit about the analogy of a

17:07

fire pit. Let's listen. In light

17:09

of everything we've been talking about, there's

17:11

an obvious analogy here, right? I

17:14

can light a fire in the boundaries of

17:16

these rocks and I'll be able

17:18

to enjoy its warmth and the light that it

17:20

provides. But what would happen if I set on

17:23

fire a patch of pine needles right next to

17:25

a cabin? Fire

17:27

could be in danger. People

17:30

could get hurt. You could say this fire

17:32

is a lot like passion. It's

17:34

natural, it serves a purpose and

17:37

it's beautiful in a powerful sort of way. God

17:40

put passion inside of us. He

17:42

also tells us to contain it, to

17:44

put boundaries around it. Just like

17:46

someone worked hard to create this fire pit, to

17:48

get it ready for a big blaze, we

17:51

need to set boundaries around our God-given

17:53

passion. Passion can quickly

17:55

turn us Into consumers

17:58

of people. Consumers

18:00

of people only think about

18:02

the passion in the pleasure

18:04

of sex and miss out

18:06

on God's complete Covenant designed

18:08

for sex, which is about

18:10

you giving a gift just

18:12

as much as it is

18:14

you receiving a gift. What

18:16

if you were a connector

18:18

rather than the consumer? Connectors

18:20

genuinely love others. they want

18:22

the best for the of.

18:25

The bottom line we contain the fire

18:27

of passion with and asked by growing

18:29

and self control. On learning to love

18:31

others with priceless. Appropriate

18:33

boundaries will have you experienced as

18:36

fast forgotten incentive for said

18:38

said of mind, body and. Soul

18:40

and Marriage. The. Right?

18:42

jump him how to go for you. Have.

18:45

The analogy was perfect and one of the

18:47

reasons in algae was perfect was because we

18:49

have a huge breast pilot side of our

18:51

house and my husband burns things all of

18:53

the time and I'm always saying he'll be

18:56

careful don't burn the force behind our house

18:58

And so this firepower. Wise counsel, but he

19:00

as. Atlases And so this fire pit really

19:02

helped. Because now when my husband the burning,

19:04

I can say that reminds me of that

19:06

fire pit analogy and then it opens up

19:08

a conversation. Just you know, when we're out

19:10

the yard or whenever I'm about. you know,

19:13

just really about God's timing and God the

19:15

best plan for sex in your life. You

19:18

to yet as emerged vs. Yeah, just

19:20

like the visuals, I mean we can all

19:22

see Tiller Blue in the face to wait

19:24

until you're married to have sex, but I

19:26

just I loved the visual and it was

19:29

just. Really? Double Surgeon

19:31

zoom in and I

19:33

like that came from

19:35

and approach of protection

19:37

rather than I'm. Just.

19:39

Suppressing whatever desire you have. You know

19:41

if you tell them you know you're

19:44

actually protecting your future spouse. Your said.

19:46

the gift you're going to give them

19:48

should be complete, shouldn't be. Know

19:51

from past relationships that's a

19:53

that's all apart. Still things

19:55

you're young person start thinking

19:58

about those responsibilities, rights. One

20:00

of the good things in the I

20:02

think you mentioned at Shauna this this

20:04

idea of little conversations along the way.

20:07

and l and you have farm animals

20:09

I put his so that makes it

20:11

pretty easy. That bad. You know you

20:13

can begin to talk to your six

20:16

seven eight year olds when something is

20:18

observed in nature. Procreation.

20:20

Ah, did you use that as

20:23

a tool? We did in

20:25

fact my my son close. Very

20:28

serious questions about what was happening prompted

20:30

as to have him join his brother.

20:32

Had super nova. Series self. Yeah, I

20:34

mean we see you can't avoid. Reproduction

20:36

when you have ahead of us and

20:39

in the in the yard. So yeah

20:41

we. We do

20:43

for each year and we were

20:45

discussing. Breeding he no one to

20:47

have a cast the next year and it

20:49

just such an easy way to just talk

20:51

about it and not so. Embarrassing circumstances. Maybe

20:53

they're right, other users could see it and

20:56

it was animals and it wasn't them we

20:58

were talking about right eye brushes and gym

21:00

I like wouldn't want to said there. I'm

21:03

her son had questions and that's the

21:05

time you want to be open handed

21:07

an open hearted to have those conversations

21:10

not shut them down so that they

21:12

contain the questions and don't come back

21:14

to you as really of this program

21:16

at the shower me com your direction

21:19

at launch help you better communicate with

21:21

your kids on some key topics you

21:23

describe their m lot of parents gonna

21:26

come right there that convince me that

21:28

this is the thing to use of

21:30

cell at. I. Don't I might be the

21:32

only parents. It's this way that I know in my heart

21:34

when I want to say but sometimes I don't have the.

21:36

right? Words to say. And

21:39

one of the things and mean even just

21:41

today. For instance when I talk to my

21:43

son before he left for school I said

21:45

words that I got from launch and it

21:48

was at the and after we talked I

21:50

said now remember his voice matters today and

21:52

it was one of the portions and launch

21:54

when it talked about who you are in

21:57

Christ and that voices from the outside can

21:59

impact you. That what God says about

22:01

you never changes and so I lot I

22:03

just grabbed onto that remember whose voice matters

22:05

and as all I have to say and

22:08

my kids then are brought back to this

22:10

conversation here and I'm also letting them know

22:12

that. You. Know whatever the world says

22:14

is not right what God says about you,

22:16

That's it. Read a So Good

22:18

I'm glad we did. The shown us

22:21

are mostly one other slip of Danny

22:23

Words or Vp of Parenting who can

22:25

describe the curriculum as well launch into

22:27

the teen years. He shares about how

22:30

to get started with your kids and

22:32

about some of the counter. The.

22:35

We start gym is is for setting

22:37

up yet that the idea that this

22:39

a special moment you can plan maybe

22:41

a weekend out with the with your

22:43

child. You can plan on some breakfast

22:45

times to ah to just go through

22:47

the video series and also prepare yourself

22:49

as a parents for the conversations. What

22:51

are you give me some of the

22:53

seems again that we're going to cover

22:55

in the curriculum what is apparent gonna

22:57

do first get you first go and

22:59

identity that's a very core peace and

23:01

then going to friendships and and social

23:04

media and emotions. That can be stirred

23:06

up events through a bullying in their

23:08

lives and then you go into the

23:10

changes in the body, the differences between

23:12

male and female and then you go

23:14

to the talk and this is to

23:17

help Yardy have conversations that flow conversation

23:19

before you get. To. The talk

23:21

you've already talked about some the success

23:23

of the Hoppers the right and in.

23:25

this is something that you could start

23:27

at nine and then continue each year

23:30

and and do again at at Twelve

23:32

And you can do it with multiple

23:34

kids at the same time. And as

23:36

the flexibility and the great thing about

23:39

this resource, I would encourage parents to

23:41

really started Eight Nine because we need

23:43

to get in there right away. Shauna

23:46

Allen neck did did deliver on

23:49

those things that Danny Express or

23:51

in that clip. Oh

23:53

definitely and more. And

23:55

more how that's really good. and in

23:57

the kids you know now they're older

23:59

do come back to that moment are

24:01

those moments that you had talking with

24:03

them. Care We circled back some. I wouldn't

24:06

say on every topic, but I think that's

24:08

the beauty of it that you can do

24:10

it more than once and timing is so

24:12

key. I mean we we grabbed and of

24:14

friendship and bullying and maybe next time my

24:16

kids will below that more there with the

24:18

differences and boys and girls and slim ask

24:20

this question is you know that my kids

24:22

narrow twenty one and nineteen so they're in

24:24

are getting older and I haven't done this

24:26

but I'd like to make out that tonight.

24:30

How did that go from your perspective now

24:32

now that year older when we had our

24:34

get away and I did are talk with

24:37

you think about that at what you think

24:39

your kids would say about that. now I'm

24:41

a trip and Troy think will go down

24:43

was good at the I think it helped

24:46

me. But. You're right. It

24:48

be a little, you know, little

24:50

dodgy. Probably because it's not comfortable

24:52

to talk about. should be more

24:54

comfortable. But what would you want

24:56

your kids to say about when

24:58

they're having the discussion with your

25:00

grandchildren? Some what would you want

25:02

your adult children the say? about

25:04

the time that you had to

25:07

talk with them? So on. The

25:09

adjectives. Cel By had that. I will

25:11

tell our kids all the time we want

25:13

you to be at able to ask us

25:15

anything. Nothing is off limits and I hope

25:17

that this helped open that door so they

25:20

knew nothing is off limits. And you

25:22

feel good about then? confident? Super

25:24

confident that's really good Necklace so important

25:26

to establish that base of trust that

25:28

they can come and talk to even

25:31

when it is awkward Town that sets

25:33

up so much of a foundation for

25:35

years to come right with Or spiritual

25:37

stuff? physical stuff, emotional stuff. I mean

25:40

that's the kind of communication you want

25:42

with your child or your adult child.

25:44

Us for this has been so good.

25:46

Thank you for participating. I'm glad weary

25:48

of the find you in the group

25:51

of those who have put launched into

25:53

the teen years. to the test and

25:55

i'm so grateful for your testimonies and for

25:57

coming and sharing those with parents who were

26:00

just hitting those years and going,

26:02

what do I do? And they're probably

26:04

thinking, I got to talk to somebody who's done

26:06

this. Well, you just have. You talk to three

26:08

people that have gone through it, actually five of

26:10

us. And I

26:13

would really want to encourage you to get a hold of

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Focus on the Family and get a

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hold of this curriculum. And

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it's really quick and very versatile as

26:21

Danny mentioned there. You can use it

26:23

at the timing that you need to

26:25

use it and do it all

26:27

at once or over four or five weeks. Get

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in touch with us. John will give us the details

26:33

and you can get started on one of the greatest

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things you're going to do is talk to your kids

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26:39

we discussed sex and bullying and friendships

26:41

and values, there's so much in the

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